It is a special thing these days to have eight children and keep the hearts of each of them. As a matter of fact it is extraordinary. And coming from a son it is especially valuable to hear how that was done. Roger Magnuson had many gifts. He had many opportunities and serendipities!
"He hath done all things well" (Mark 7:37). David Gibbs Jr. recounts the story of his mother's impossible work, a nearly-unbelievable story about the way someone who couldn't do anything did a great work in the kingdom.
Instead of aiming for perfect parenthood, why not aim for whole parenthood? You can be a whole father. A whole mother. Exercising love and limits. With control and support.