Self-government is the measure of a man. Irritations and mistakes are sure to arise in every home but whether they are allowed to threaten our closest relationships is a choice that is ours. And so it is that fathers, mothers, sons and daughters would all do well to take note of an otherwise commonly-tolerated sin that is nailed in this simple message. Learn to recognize (as well as to help others recognize) a serious threat to the harmony and joy God wants you to have as a family. A host of other woes including the spirit of perfectionism, temporal values, and hypocrisy can also be averted with a quick question that Gil and Kelly Bates have learned to ask when the pressure is on.