Know the Basis of Honor
King David’s call for Mephibosheth to come before him struck fear in Mephibosheth’s heart, because he was related to Saul, who had tried to kill David. But David did the unexpected and honored Mephibosheth, even having him sit at the king’s banquet table. David did this not because of who Mephibosheth was but because of whom he represented. He was the son of Jonathan, whom David loved as his own soul. (See II Samuel 9.)
We honor a person based on our perception of his importance or the importance of those he represents.